Jason: The Good, The Bad, and The Elevator

Jason, or as Missi (my sister) liked to call him Gigalo Jason.

Jason was the first guy I gave my phone number to from POF. He got me with the, "hey worst case scenario we meet someone new" line. That's my line.

It went so well on the phone. We talked constantly. For like 2 hours in the 2 nights previous to our "date". He was getting his masters in substance abuse. He was charming. And then...the date.

We met at Oak Park Mall Panera. He was late by 5 minutes. Not cool. Not cool at all. We sat and talked at Panera for a bit. Silly talk. Awkward talk. No questions just weird tip toe bantering. I assumed it was because it was first time being together. We decided to walk around. It got bad here.

He opted for us to take the elevator to the second floor. While in said elevator, he tried to make out with me! I pushed him away and told him no way. No how. He took that rather well and we made a quick lap around the upper section and I said it was time for me to go.

As we were walking to my car he said he wanted to date me exclusively!?!? That he wanted me to shut down my profile and see no one else. I said I dint know him well enough I would have to think about it. He said it was a limited time offer. No THAnK YoU!

We parted not on good terms and I assumed that was that. BUT NO! He then proceeded to text me and try to convince me that I should date him exclusive. Maybe we could try for a week. Maybe I could just give him another date. Gah! He was relentless. I refused all further advances and haven't heard from him since.

Poor Jason. Good luck finding your next girl to control and stalk.

Patrick: The non-date date

So date number three. (Yes I realize this is my first post. I will catch up the other two later.)

So we met at this little coffee shop on 39th st name The Javanaut. Quaint. Very lovely.

I had already mostly said that we were destined for friendship. I tried to be plain on this but I can't say that I was successful. Regardless, he was there when I arrived but I kind of played dumb and went in and got myself a drink.

I went out to the patio and we exchanged (the most awkward in history of ever) handshake/sorta not handshake. The good news is that the handshake was by far the worst part of the evening.

I had a great time! He was very witty and talked about himself as well as had questions for me. Conversation flowed easily for an hour and a half. I learned that he has dated a Jehovah Witness and a Wiccan. But mostly he was very interesting and kind. I enjoyed myself immensely but just am not physically attracted. I will say that he looks MUCH better than his pictures. He looks normalish :). But he is just much more eccentric than I am. I couldn't see myself with him. I CAN see us as friends.

I wrapped things up at about 9:30. I avoided all physical touch (due to prior handshake horror). He gave me a mixed cd, which I surprisingly enjoy. Overall I give it a 7. The only thing missing for an actual date is the chemistry. (Although I am not certain he is spiritually where I would like for a serious BF, but I would be willing to explore the possibility if all other things were solid.

Sigh. I must say that it was enjoyable. I regret my own lack of eccentricities that prevent a better match. I'm certain he will call again and I will have to make sure he understands the friends only vibe.

All that being said I have another date on Sunday (I think) depending on if we can work my coffee shop and small group schedule around his fantasy football draft! Ridiculous, but true. This date will be with Stephen (Steve). I'm kind of excited. We have been talking a lot. I like him. He is very sweet and into his family. He graduated with a BS in Psych from KU. We will see.

That's all for now! Stay tuned for more (doubtless exciting) adventures!

Megan